Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Have a Mind of Your Own

We’ve all been blessed with a brain. Why is it then that we find ourselves following what someone else thinks? Examples:

There are lakhs of people supporting Anna Hazaare. His methods to fight corruption must be the best and I wear the ‘I am Hazaare’ cap. Herd mentality.

70% students of my class are answering CAT this year. I am not sure of how an MBA can help me but let me try CAT too. Welcome to the RAT race.

All my friends have a smart phone, I must have one too. I spend 20K to buy one. Peer Pressure.

My friend went to Maldives for their first anniversary, we should go too. Influence.

It is simple to get swayed by such happenings around us. However, it limits our ability to make our OWN decisions – choices made after putting in quality time and thought, analyzing the situation, the problem at hand and the viable solution. It requires stressing our grey cells, spending time in prodding an issue and coming up with a logical solution. When we make such informed decisions, we are sure to succeed in implementing them. We are convinced of the resulting actions and have our logic to back up our belief. This is a learning process. And it is worth all the effort.

After all, it helps our mind be our OWN.

So next time you are presented with an idea, give it a THOUGHT before you give it your NOD.

Friday, December 2, 2011

Don't Fret over Bad Times..

I look at people around me and imagine how they would look ten years from now. I know the answer. Older.

And then I virtually turn to look at myself. And wonder.. how would I look after ten years? I know the answer yet again..

How often we neglect this basic fact of life – we are aging by each minute, growing closer to our end. Is this philosophy? I think, it is. The greatest of all knowledge that we can accumulate in life. It is this truth that all of us know but fail to remind ourselves. And this is the reason for all our sorrows!

How?  Well, we keep worrying our heads daily over some BIG problem life has thrown upon us – financial problem, career problem, boss problem, work problem, property problem, family problem, relationship problem etc. There is a simple way to solve all this but we overlook this method each time.

The solution is to understand that any problem we are facing currently is TEMPORARY. It will pass. After all, everything does pass, doesn’t it. Nothing remains ‘as is’ forever – your face, looks, love, financial situation, a relationship, children, society, priorities. They change.

So, whenever in problem, remember this – It will CHANGE. It has to

Don’t fret over bad times or try to hold on to good times. As, sooner or later, with or without our wish, it will change. And you will have to MOVE ON.

The best thing to do is to enjoy NOW. This very moment is yours, so take control.

Be happy!